Friendship is probably the most
independent form of relationship that exists in this world. It gives you the
freedom to express yourself, the freedom to fight, the freedom to tease, the
freedom to love, the freedom to steal, the freedom to force, the freedom to
share, the freedom to lie, the freedom to help and above all the freedom to
care.
Its
said that friendship is the first step towards falling in love. Is it so??
Really?? Are we 100% sure??? Give it a thought for 30 seconds.
I
would like to tweak it a little bit. Friendship
is the first wrong step towards falling in love. The blessing of using the
concept of freedom in a friendship proves to be the curse as well. That same
freedom which allows you to display innumerable facets of emotions in a
friendship ignites the first step towards entering the zone of Love. The joy of
being your own self with someone very special leads you to the thought of
finding the best mate for life. And thus starts the transformation from being
friends to best friends forever to being in “so-called” love.
Unlike
the painful metamorphosis that happens when a caterpillar turns into a
beautiful butterfly, this adaptation is more smooth and rapid. However, when
the change has taken place the facets of existing emotions take a back step or
vanish and a new set of emotions creep into your heart and mind. The emotions
can be labelled as possessiveness, over-caring, expectations, boredom,
monotony, envy, jealousy, etc.
Love
is not bad but it can always dilute the unadulterated bonding of friendship. It
can steal the joy of being an idiot. It kills the right to make mistakes. It
interferes into your freedom to abuse, say all kind of gibberish, to hit, say
sorry and again hit, etc. This invisible wall of responsibilities, sacrifices,
commitments overshadows the innocence of
a pure and sweet-sour friendship.
Nevertheless
we meet strangers, make friends, gel along, hang out, fall in love, care, have
sex, fight, pamper, get possessive, fight again, get hurt, fall apart and move on.
Life never stops neither does time. But all the afore mentioned actions kill a
blossoming everlasting friendship and leave behind the harsh and painful traces
of an ugly “Love based memories”.
And
as I conclude, we find this ‘Friendship
to Love’ concept a universal and never ending theory; no matter it gives
joy or pain, we all love walking the robust road.
@ Debashish
