It is when you stop going along with the
crowd and start realising that there are many things about yourself that you
didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you
are now.
You start realising that people are
selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to
aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have
lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognise
is that they are realising that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere,
but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not
even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for
a job and realising that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that
scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You
see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because
suddenly you realise that you have certain boundaries in your life and are
constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One
minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest
force of your life. You feel alone\ and scared and confused. Suddenly, change
is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon
realise that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is
nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how
someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why
you can't meet anyone decent enough
that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone
else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you
aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a
sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot
starts to look pathetic. You begin to think a companion for life is better than
a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that
special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now. You go
through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your
friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You
worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and
while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a
contender!
What you may not realise is that every
one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of
times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to
your twenty-something friends.... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't
alone in their state of confusion...
We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis”
!!!
Note:- This article has been penned down by a good friend of mine.
Note:- This article has been penned down by a good friend of mine.
A time of adventures and misadventures.....more of misadventures! When we learn what living on the edge means! A really thoughtful post!
ReplyDeleteYup pranshu...it is infact more of misadventures...and every misadventure takes us into another adventurous world....thus being a learning curve!!
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